Crabs are the biggest obstacle to growth in any area of your life… especially strength.
He said, “Crabs are funny creatures. When you catch a lot of them you can put them in a bucket and not worry about them escaping.
What inevitably happens when one starts to climb out of the bucket, the others will pull him down and not let him escape.”
I was sitting in the crowd and had this revelation hit me like a brick.
I thought to myself, “This is a lot like life. We all have crabs that pull us down at certain points in our life.”
One of my favorite motivational speakers, Tony Robbins, said it another way: “You are a combination of the 5 people you spend most of your time with.”
Are your friends crabs? Do they lift you up or tear you down?
If its the latter, its time to get new friends.
Why Crabs Will Kill Your Strength Gains
Getting stronger is hard work.
It takes mental grit.
It takes the ability to not give in when your muscle is filling with lactic acid and in pain.
This is what it takes to grow stronger.
When you have crabs in your life, you will be pulled down. You will hear voices in your head that tell you that you can’t do it, its too hard, just give in.
You have to kick the crabs off & keep your eye on the vision.
If you turn around to take notice of what the crabs are doing you will notice the grip they have on you. If you keep your vision for a stronger version of yourself, then you’ll be able to climb out of the bucket.
Below I have 3 tips to help you kill the crabs in your life.
3 Tips To Help You Remove the Crabs In Your Life
1. Separate Yourself From Negative People
If you live around people that are constantly griping about the world, don’t hang around them. Consider their words toxic to your heart and mind.
2. Stop The Negative Self Talk
For Lent, I decided to stop all negative self-talk.
It. Was. Hard.
I am normally a positive person but throughout the Lenten season, I realized how much negativity actually goes on inside.
A few years ago, I heard about the 10 Day Mental Detox.
It was super challenging but taught me the power of positive thinking.
3. Create a “What Does Success Look Like?” Poster
There is a verse that says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.” You must have a clear vision for your life if you want to succeed in any endeavor.
Most people are like leaves blowing in the wind. They listen to media, their friends and their own random thoughts to dictate the actions that they choose.
10 years later they find themselves in a place they never wanted.
Its sad but true.
My recommendation for overcoming this is to create a “What Does Success Look Like?” Poster.
Dream up the ideal life. Let your imagination soar.
Then write down 50 statements that encompass this ideal life.
Its also helpful to create a “What Does Failure Look Like?” Poster. Remember the lesson we learned from the Navy SEALs in Hell Week. Visualization about negative consequences can be just as, if not MORE, powerful than visualizing about positive consequences.
I am creating 2 posters and will be putting them on the wall of my office.
Here’s my “Success” poster:
When you have such a strong vision of your ideal life, any negativity or crabs that enter your life will be quickly squashed.
You’ll also be able to overcome times when you don’t believe you’ll be able to make it. Just read your Success Poster and Failure Poster. The image of your ideal life will start to take shape in reality.
photo credit: Singing With Light