“If You Are Your Own Trainer, Your Trainer Is A Fool” – My Golden Gloves Coach
These were the words of my boxing coach when I was training for Golden Gloves.
I still remember them vividly and thinking, “Is he right?”
I have always been a lone wolf and I certainly didn’t like to be told what to do by some.
Now I realize that this perspective on life has limited me. We are stronger together.
Isaac Newton once said, “If I have seen further it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.” These “giants” are the ones that have been there before. They have seen what brings success and what brings failure.
They aren’t in any particular order…
5 Life Lessons From The Greatest Sports Coaches Of All Time
1. Always Remain Optimistic, Even In The Face Of Adversity
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.” – John Wooden
Earlier today I met with my mentor.
I was sharing with him some deep struggles I was having and using a “Why me?” tone.
He looked at me straight in the eye and told me “That’s life.”
His words jolted me out of my stupor as I realized that we are all dealing with problems, every day.
My circumstances are really no different than anyone elses though for some reason I see mine as more important. Dale Carnegie once said, “The blemish on my nose is more important to me than the earthquake in China.” Why is that?
It’s because we make a “mountain out of a mole hill.”
Let us take the words of Wooden into consideration when we face the challenges of today.
Squeeze some lemonade out of that lemon.
2. Don’t stop… ever.
“Winners never quit and quitters never win.” – Vince Lombardi
They say that hindsight is 20/20.
Back in High School, I started a website called SourceofVitality.com.
The main focus was health and nutrition. After about a few months of working on it, I decided I was bored and gave up.
A few years later I realized that my credit card was still being charged for the domain hosting!
I decided to check in to see if anyone was visiting the site and I was floored to find out that I had traffic in the 1,000’s! SourceofVitality.com had been linked to by sites from all over the world including Bangladesh and China.
My buddy remarked, “Dude! You’re world famous everywhere except for America.”
Even with the encouragement from this unassisted growth, I decided to kill the website. Now of course I look back and think, “Man, if I had even just spent a couple hours a day, over the course of a decade I could have one of the most popular nutrition/health sites online.
The main lesson from this story is that quitters never win and winners never quit.
If you have something you are pursuing and you are struggling with follow-through, keep pressing on.
One of my old business coaches (who was the Senior Vice President of WebMD) told me, “Todd, sometimes when you are traveling up the stairs of success you have to stop and turn around to see where you have come from. Don’t let the discouragement of the climb bring you down. Look at how far you have come and be encouraged by that.“
These are definitely words to live by.
3. Let Your Actions Speak Louder Than Your Words
“An acre of performance is worth a whole world of promise.” – Red Auerbach
There is a story about a little boy who lived with his lazy, alcoholic father. Every night, before the father went to bed he told the boy, “Tomorrow morning I will get up before the sun rises and catch fish for us to eat.”
When the next morning came the father was fast asleep and didn’t wake up until late morning. This went on for decades. The story goes on to state that one day… a morning came… and the morning went and the father never woke up. He had died in his sleep.
Kind of a depressing story but I think the moral of it is to follow through on our actions.
Performance weighs far more than mere promise.
4. Gain Wisdom From Your Losses
“You can learn a line from a win and a book from a defeat.”
Great motivational speaker Tony Robbins coined an acronym called “C.A.N.I.” It stands for Constant And Never-ending Improvement.
We often think that it is the peaks and mountain tops that we experience the greatest insight. In reality, it is when we trek through the valleys of life and make it through the other side where we gain the greatest knowledge about who we are and what it takes to succeed.
As mentioned above, I have just come out of one of these valley experiences.
I spent much time calling God a “deceiver” and wondering “Why me?”
Now that I am out of the valley I realize that God was always with me. Even when He is silent that doesn’t mean He is not listening.
5. Be Willing To Work Hard
“I’ll put you through hell, but at the end of it all we’ll be champions.” – Bear Bryant
Bear had the right idea. It takes hard work to succeed.
I think one of the greatest examples of this is Rudy. If you don’t know Rudy, shame on you. His story is one of the most inspirational of all time.
Here’s a great poem that sums up this principle well. It’s called…
When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh.
When care is pressing you down a bit.
Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns
As every one of us sometimes learns.
And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out:
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow –
You may succeed with another blow.
Success is failure turned inside out –
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt.
And you never can tell how close you are.
It may be near when it seems so far:
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.
– Shri. Mayank Kalia
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